tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6823148656750875955.post891920542973606090..comments2015-03-22T06:54:28.937-07:00Comments on Colleen 3.0: I Finally Got a Boyfriend and Now He's in JailColleenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04238200911487674555noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6823148656750875955.post-62177610740808240182007-05-03T11:40:00.000-07:002007-05-03T11:40:00.000-07:00I am so sorry for you. I wish I had good news to ...I am so sorry for you. I wish I had good news to give you, but sadly enough, I don't. The fact is that yes, he will probably lose his job because of this...and yes, even while in jail, and because of the child support that he lost his job, he will still owe money for the time he is in jail or without a job...even if through no fault of his own. <BR/><BR/>I have a boyfriend/husband for 8 years now...the sweetest guy in the world...probably just like this sweet guy you just met...and sadly enough, knowing then what I know now, I would probably have walked away...I like you, did not...and it seems that our nightmare will never end. Instead, our son now suffers as well...not because we had him without being able to afford it, as I made over 50K a year and had my own home and obviously, could afford my son and completely support him...but because regardless of what happens, the child support offices and ex-wives continue to increase support without merit and make false allegations, just to get more money...In the end, after 7 years of my husband faithfully paying the ex directly, the CSE office ruined his credit by stating that he never had paid over 29K...they also garnished his wages to the point where I had to take FULL responsibility for us, not just me and my son, but him as well...in the end, yes, the courts found that he had indeed paid the support, but they never did fix his credit, they never did return the money they garnished that was not owed...and everyday, we go into further debt because of this...His income has greatly decreased since child support was last calculated, we have recently found our son has special needs, speaks at the level of a 1 1/2 year old and he's 5...yet none of that matters to the child support offices...instead, they have advised that he should not even attempt to get it lowered because if he had the ability to make 80K before, he still has that same ability today...regardless of whether the economy has gone down the tubes, regardless of the fact that he is in sales and is still top sales guy in his division...it's not his fault, it's obviously not my son's fault...but I have basically spent over 60K in the last few years of savings, to assist him so that he does not end up in jail because of child support...because even though he always paid, the ex asked for more and continued to harrass us for more with the threat of going back to court...and a lawyer would cost us more than she asked for, so that's how she's gotten it all...At this point...well, after being a single 33 year old, with over 80K in savings, my own 2700sq ft home, my own 2 yr old paid off car...with no debt...I am now with no savings, over 30K of debt and scraping pennies to eat...to the point I will have to sell our home and move into a small 2 bedroom apartment at least until my husband no longer has to pay support...<BR/><BR/>Does this sound outrageous? It sure does...Is it fair? No. Is it fair to the men that through no fault of their own have been screwed by the system and the ex's? No...But at the end of the day, we have to think of ourselves and the possibility that if we are with these men, we might bring another child to suffer at the hands of the child support offices. <BR/><BR/>I like you worry now, as I had to do it before, that God forbid something happens to my husband, I will have to support him fully, my son, myself AND pay his child support to avoid him going to jail and MY son having the trauma of his dad in jail...But you know, the courts don't care about me, my son or my husband...they only care about the custodial parent and the child receiving support.<BR/><BR/>I wish you luck...but please, read around...check out what others who have been where you are now have gone through...before you determine that you are willing to have someone else dictate your entire life...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com